Why Am I Single?

Why Am I Still Single?

Today, we’ll be discussing a salient issue which is applicable to every(or most) adult.  The peaches and roses we’ll be digesting is BEING SINGLE.

Generally, humans are not built and do not enjoy living a life of a hermit. We value close relationships, family connections, filial embraces and religious gatherings. We are social animals. This elucidates the severity of depression and it’s subsequent dangers. 

Money, in abundance cannot buy true friendship. Any relationship based and built upon money is facetious at best with both parties garishly trying to outdo themselves in a vain manner. I’m sure, just like me, you don’t want that for yourself. Personally, right now, I possess money in paucity so I can’t afford even to lavishly spoil any lady with material substances.

Therefore, just like many in my situation, I’ve often cogitated about my single status. “ Why am I single? “ I’ve asked my head this ambivalent question. Personally, going to a so called “relationship expert” might or might not help. I believe that they make their living by making simple situations complex and giving complex and ambiguous answers to questions that might have required a rudimentary response and answer. 

You, just like me, might be single for the following reasons and they include:

1: You consciously or unconsciously chose to be single

Believe it or not, that’s the plain truth. The phrase above is filled with so much candor. You never placed much emphasis on long term relationships and probably never bothered to put in much effort. You value your privacy to large extent and don’t want the extra drama that comes in a relationship. You most likely, know within yourself, the moment you’ll be prepared for a true relationship.

2: Finance

If you are from Nigeria, West Africa, you’ll probably be aware that being in a relationship is quite expensive, more so if one is dating a much pretty girl. I’m sure it’s common everywhere too. You instantly become the father that birthed her and the mother that breastfed her in many situations. Money spices a true relationship. That’s why you see the philanderers changing women like tee shirts (I don’t encourage it because it’s incongruous and sinful). It’s the way of the world. Unless one’s other half is very empathetic, the man is in a quagmire of potential heartbreak if he can’t fulfil his self-imposed  financial obligations. 

3: All Men Are Bad

Many ladies possess the above mindset about men. They’re subtle, overt and sometimes covert misandrists. Sometimes, the premise for their arguments is justifiable and many a times, it isn’t. The truth is possessing such pallid perception about men is grave and can be baleful. All men aren’t the same. No one is totally good but there are still upright men who want to give their all to the lady deserving to receive it.

4: All Women Are Greedy, Opportunistic and Bad

The misogynists will continue to live the life of a hermit if he possesses such a  gauntly mindset. We attract what we focus our thoughts on. Possessing a positive but guarded outlook on women is very important and uplifting. There are very empathetic and caring women who want to give their all to their men. They want the bliss that marriage presents. 

Those are my peaches and roses for today. Devour them slowly and sumptuously. Mediate on them like one would inhale gently the scent of the morning rose.